That time for reflection as well as deeper connection. Nevertheless, my point?Ī Master/Dom/Top can refine and perfect his art of “direction” in several different ways then SURPRISE your bottom/sub with new ideas, new direction…yet some or all of it might be based upon that Downtime: the time when roles are equal and communication between each other is wide-open. Fox.Īs I was reading, I thought to myself, What might be a good method of practice when your bottom/sub is unavailable? My immediate answer was to practice on a female manikin - but then, how easy is it to get hold of one? But perhaps they are easily obtainable online, then kept in the bedroom for your spouse/partner to use as an “outfit for the day” holder. I have provided you with some wonderful information regarding an often overlooked aspect of a D/s relationship but you, the husDom, will need to fine tune this information to fit your personal dynamic.Įxcellent content and ‘direction’ Mr. No two relationships are going to be exactly the same. Be sure that you are soliciting the “needs improvement” as well as the kudos from your submissive. Measure your growth! Be sure to properly utilize “Downtime” in order to gather input regarding your progress. “Kneel on the floor, with your arms crossed behind your back and your chin down!” Try to limit this to no more than three direction for each command. Direct her eyes, her head, her mouth, her sex, her entire body.Īnother goal to work toward when directing your submissive would be to integrate more than one direction into one single command. Include additional elements besides just her limbs. After you have mastered the concept of directing your submissive try incorporating other elements into your directions. This simple task may prove more difficult than it appears. Do not underestimate her need for direction now. In the past your submissive would not have required this direction during play. The essential component to directing your submissive is that even if, as the Dominant, you don’t have a specific action that you would like from your submissive you need to provide her with direction. Give her commands that express what you would like her to do. Whether your submissive is doing exactly as you desire or you want her to do or change something you need to clearly communicate that to her.īegin with her limbs, what is she doing with them? If she is holding onto something already, like the headboard, tell her not to let go of it until instructed to do so. Little Kaninchen discontinued any initiative during sex and I wanted her to do only what I instructed of her.Ī common issue that arises for new D/s couples is that the submissive no longer has the desire or the liberty to do as she pleases during sex and the Dominant fails to present any input regarding the submissive’s basic posture. This behavior change was on both of our parts and was an instinctual reaction to our new roles. Little Kaninchen felt the same as I did, she desired for me to be in control, especially in the bedroom. I wanted total Dominance and now I expected it! “Spread your legs and keep your knees apart!” “Hold still, do not move!” “Hold on to the headboard and whatever you do, do not let go!” I no longer wanted her to take any control in the bedroom. This was not a willful or deliberate change but rather a natural sentiment. One of the first things that changed for me during my journey was my mindset towards her actions during sex. If she wanted to place her hands on my back, run her fingers through my hair, or change positions she would simply do it without soliciting me. “Look into my eyes!” “Put your arms above your head!” “Spread your legs for me!”ĭuring the vanilla days LK would do as she pleased with herself with little guidance from me during sex. More specific I am going to discuss the simple art of directing your submissive’s body in general during sex, a scene or vanilla with a twist.
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They want guidance on how to please you as well as what your expectations are of them. Submissive woman want to be given direction on what to do during sex. Complimenting her attributes is a crucial element in any sexual relationship and the three examples that I gave above certainly wont suffice in a D/s relationship, step it up… way up! This is about directing your submissive during sex! “You are so beautiful.” “You have a sexy body.” “You are so wet.”Īlthough I encourage complementing your submissive and her attributes this post is not about and has nothing to do with your submissive’s virtues. Most vanilla men actually say very little during sex if anything at all and are probably only used to making statements regarding their wife’s attributes. Until reading this you would probably believe that you were communicating sufficiently to your submissive. One common characteristic among most submissives is that they crave guidance and direction especially in the bedroom.